Situationships: an emotionally confusing space that’s more than a friendship but not quite a relationship. You hang out, text all day, maybe even get intimate, but when you ask, "What are we?" things suddenly get awkward.

If this keeps happening to you, it’s not just bad luck. Sometimes, we unknowingly play a part in the patterns we attract. So let’s unpack why you might be constantly ending up in situationships and how to break free.

You say you're “just going with the flow,” but deep down, you’re hoping it flows into commitment. The problem? You never actually say what you want. You fear sounding needy or pushing them away, so you settle for crumbs and call it a connection. But silence won’t get you clarity, only courage will.

When someone tells you they’re “not looking for anything serious,” believe them the first time. Don’t take it as a challenge or hope you’ll be the exception. If their words and actions don’t align with your relationship goals, it’s not your job to wait around until they change; it’s your job to walk away.

Sometimes, the idea of being alone feels scarier than being in limbo. So you settle for something instead of nothing, even if that something constantly leaves you feeling confused and unfulfilled. But being alone isn't a punishment, it's a reset. It clears space for something real.

Sure, the spark is there. The attraction is real. But connection isn’t the same as commitment. Just because the vibes are good doesn’t mean they’re your person. Chemistry might draw you in, but only compatibility and shared values will keep you there long term.

Situationships thrive in uncertainty, but you don’t have to. If you keep ending up in these unclear dynamics, it might be time to look inward. What are you afraid of? What are you avoiding? What do you truly want?

You deserve clarity. You deserve consistency. And you deserve someone who doesn’t make you question your worth. Don’t be afraid to raise your standards, because the right person won’t be confused about you.