One of the things we may never be able to do is read another person’s mind, and though that’s often a blessing, it can sometimes feel like a disadvantage.

We've all heard tragic stories where harm was caused by those closest to the victim, leaving us thinking, "If only they knew..." While we may never truly know what people think of us, there are signs and behaviors that can suggest whether someone has good intentions or ulterior motives. If you're unsure about certain people in your life, here are some signs that may raise red flags:

1. They Are Very Paranoid

Paranoia refers to the constant feeling that someone is out to get you. While some people develop this due to past trauma, others may be paranoid because they themselves have bad intentions. They fear that the same harm they wish upon others might come back to them. This defensive behavior can be a warning sign of ill intent.

2. They Incite You Against Others

If someone is constantly trying to pit you against others, this can be a sign of manipulation. They may do this to isolate you or to create division and conflict in your relationships. Encouraging hostility between you and others is often a tactic used by those with ulterior motives to weaken your support system.

3. Their Conversations Are Always Negative

A person who never has anything positive to say about anyone may be projecting their own negative view of the world. Constantly bad-mouthing others and never celebrating positive traits or achievements shows they thrive on negativity. This could be a red flag indicating that they don't have your best interests at heart.

4. They Are Unusually Competitive

Healthy competition can be motivating, but if someone is constantly trying to one-up you or overshadow your achievements, it might be a sign that they are more interested in beating you than supporting you. People with ulterior motives often feel threatened by your success and may try to diminish your accomplishments to feel superior.

5. They Are Only Around When They Need Something

One of the clearest signs of bad intentions is when someone only shows up when they need something from you. If they disappear when you're going through tough times or never offer help, yet expect you to be available when they need support, they may be using you for their own gain. Genuine friends are there for both the highs and the lows.

Trust Your Instincts

We can never fully know what's going on in someone else's mind but their actions can provide clues. Trust your instincts and pay attention to these red flags. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people who have good intentions will lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.