I was a virgin and planned to keep it that way until I got married. I told every man who showed interest in me about my desire to remain a virgin until marriage. Some pulled the brakes, and some persisted, thinking I would change my mind along the line. Needless to say, the moment they realized I was serious, they would leave.

Soon, I was knocking on 30 and afraid that I would never find a mate. I felt like I needed to maybe compromise on some of my standards. So when Juan came along, I had softened up a bit. But he didn't push for sex—he wasn't rushing it at all. I liked that.

I told him I had intended to keep my virginity until marriage, but now I was ready to let him have it if he wanted it.

"If you want to keep it till marriage, then do it. I don't intend to go anywhere. I'm here forever."

To say I was excited was an understatement. I had finally met the one who would help me stay pure just at the moment I was about to give up. Juan was everything I wanted in a man. He was thick and tall, he was good-looking, and a kind man. How did I get the whole package in one?

I began to preach about why girls should never settle: "What you want exists."

Then we got married. On our wedding night, we were exhausted, but the following day, when I was ready for some action, I noticed that he was nervous. I couldn't understand the hesitation—wasn't this the moment we were all waiting for?

That night, I finally saw it. His 'tool.' It was disappointing, even for a virgin like me.

Was this what I was going to live with for the rest of my life?

"It grows when aroused. I'm nervous, that's why it's not growing."

I didn't know what to do to get him to calm down, so I started talking calmly to him, telling him that it was okay and that we were good. Then I could see it grow and erect—and it was still small.

Then he said, "It's not about the size. It's about how you use it."

So I let him 'use it'—and I had fun. I loved it. I couldn't believe that he was just thick and tall only in body size but not down there. No wonder he never fought my no-bedroom-before-marriage policy.

Regardless of his shortcomings, he still knows how to use it to make us happy.