I was in Sunyani, and he was in Accra, but love knows no distance. When I missed him, I'd clear my savings, scrape together money, and send it to him so he could visit. If I wanted to go to Accra to visit him, I’d still clear my savings to go and see him.

When Gilbert was hungry and I had nothing to spare, I’d borrow money from friends so I could send him something. I couldn’t sleep knowing he was hungry, no matter what it cost me. My friends were furious with me for owing them all this money, but I didn't care so long as my boyfriend was taken care of.

Finally, I got into the University of Ghana, while he was at UPSA, and I was thrilled that we’d be closer. In my first year, I was staying in a hostel, and our relationship was going strong. Then, in the second year, he urgently needed money, but all I had left were my hostel fees. I couldn't watch him suffer, so I handed over my hostel money and started perching with a friend. She shared her hostel room with three others, so I was really pushing it, and they weren’t exactly thrilled to have me there. I didn’t take it personally, though. I knew I’d given my hostel fees for a good reason.

One day, I was added on Snapchat by an unfamiliar account. I accepted the request, and this girl sent a streak—a video of her and Gilbert eating waakye together! I was shocked. I gave him my hostel money, and here he was enjoying himself with someone else! I angrily confronted him, and to my disbelief, he said, “I was with her before I met you. You’re the side girl.”

“So why didn’t you just let me know? You made me look like a fool!” I shouted.

“Because I love you, and I love her. I love you both, and I can’t choose,” he replied.

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I was furious. The whole thing was crazy! Yet, I stayed. I felt like if I just loved him hard enough, he would eventually choose me. That was years ago now. Gilbert is out of the country, thanks to a series of loans I took out to help him leave. The other girl did her best for him, too. We still love each other, and he’s paying off the loan by sending money now. He also sends money to her. I’m hopeful he’ll choose me in the end, but just in case he doesn’t, I’m looking for someone else, too.

I know I sound foolish, but really, what’s love without a little silliness?